That's not what you said

They tell you to just BE YOURSELF

and

Then they JUDGE YOU

This can easily confuse anyone. Growing up, you are always taught to be yourself and not let anyone tell you otherwise. However, when you are criticized for doing so, you get confused as to what you should really do. It almost seems that 'its okay to be yourself, people just have to like it'. That is the same thing as being what others expect you to be. Which is wrong. God made everyone different for a reason and you should make it work for you. When you are a teen, it hits you very hard. We see it alot whether it may be on TV or in real life because it is a very common issue that many people face secretly or out loud.

Am I beautiful?

Am I skinny enough?

Am I popular enough?

Am I cool enough?

Everyone goes through a period where, they are un-sure of who they are. I admit that i have. Sometimes, we wish that we could be someone else or have different traits. There is nothing wrong with losing weight or enhance your beauty with make-up. It's when you do not appreciate who you are, where it becomes a problem.However, it is important that through those tough times, we do not lose respect for ourselves. If we don't respect ourselves how do we expect others to? We are all beautiful, we are all unique and I find that really incredible. There is only one YOU. Always strive to be the best YOU, you can be. Make it worthwhile. I inspire to do the same.

"All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself." ~Ralph Ellison, "Battle Royal"